Perception and the highlight reel of time

If you had come into my life towards the end of 2011, you would have assumed my wife and I were fairly average for our ages. Married young, paying on a car for my wife, and a motorcycle for me, we lived in a town home, and had relatively little furniture. Our major purchase for 2011 was a new bed that I had bought with extra money from overtime. My wife was an aspiring young photographer, but we had yet to do any weddings together.

Had you entered my life in late 2011 you may have assumed we were relatively normal, despite our unique relationship spanning the oceans. You would have thought we blended in quite well. Into 2012 and onward, we became more and more successful, almost as if we were favored, almost as if luck had everything to do with it. If you had entered our lives around the end of 2011 and watched us acquire everything that we did afterwards, it would have been easy to become jealous, and to think of favoritism of some sort.

Had you entered our lives around this time period, you would not have seen all the hard work that had gone into all that we have now. The courting period. My working hard in England, saving to move here. You would not have seen the nearly four years of marriage, and commitment to each other just to get to 2012.

During 2012 I became a citizen, I paid my motorcycle off, I bought a brand new jeep, we bought new furniture, we paid my wife’s car off, we traveled to England to visit my family for the first time since I moved here. We shot weddings together. I sponsored my parents to move here. In 2013 my parents came to live with us, we bought a house, and a plethora of tools and fixtures that come with buying a house. We began to host birthday parties, and our success was erupting for everyone to see. In 2014 we shot more weddings than ever before, and my wife’s business began to grow. Being able to buy nice things for me was a luxury I had seldom experienced thus far, and was an experience in and of itself.

What many did not see was all the hard work that had gone into all that. The reason, as my wife pointed out, that more and more people became negative towards us in the end of 2014 is because they only saw the highlights of our lives. Up until and including buying the house, many cheered for us. When we stayed successful and continued streaking across the sky, those who could not live up to our example began to become jealous, and some would nip at our heels whenever they had the chance.

They do not realize the many years that have gone into building the life that we have. They do not see the many hours my wife and I put into working our butts off to live this life. They do not see the trials and tribulations. They do not understand what it takes to endure, because they have never had to.

The trials we went through as teenagers, and in our early marriage when first coming together permanently, has solidified our relationship and our individual resolve.

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Those who met us earlier on in our courtship, have a better understanding of our trials. As 2015 comes into bloom, we are doubling down on our commitment to each other and to our own entrepreneurial spirit. It has taken this long just to start seeing real profit. My wife can now eye working from home on a permanent basis, while I finally wade into publishing writings I have had sketched out for years.

Nothing good is ever easy. It takes a lot of hard work, a lot of patience, and a commitment to do good, no matter what others may throw at you or say behind your back.

Perception is important. Those who have known me longest know that I am in fact very humble by nature. Those who haven’t known me long probably perceive me as arrogant. That’s OK. Whatever arrogance I may have, I’ve earned it. I worked my butt off to be where I am today, and I intend to go further. Not for fame, not for glory, nor even for riches. But to live an authentic life that is all my own.

When you only ever observe the highlights, you miss the full picture. The saying goes ‘never judge a book by it’s cover’ perception it seems, is everything.

If you want a good life, you have to work hard. There is no other way around it. You will have hardships of many kinds you will have to endure. If you use philosophy as a guide and believe in yourself, in your abilities and have a little faith. You can create whatever you want. Do not concern yourself with what others are doing. Do not concern yourself with their highlight reels. Your perception is important, and you should strive to see the best in yourself, and in turn become the best you can be. You really can achieve anything if you put your mind to it.

Starting the new year off right

So I started off the year by deactivating Facebook. Well that’s not strictly true. I actually deactivated Facebook on New Year’s Eve. But anyway, I started off the year without the constant distraction of social media, which gave me more time to focus on publishing my first book.

A few years before I met my wife, I read a book called ‘Rich Dad, Poor Dad’ and that had me thinking differently about society in general. When my (now) father-in-law pointed me in the direction of Joseph Campbell’s ‘Hero with a thousand faces’ when I first visited ten years ago, it changed my life forever.

The three years after first meeting my wife in person and dating long distance were hard. ‘The hero with a thousand faces’ became a reflection of my own ‘hero’s journey.’ Between the ages of 17 and 19 when I did most of my traveling back and forth between Britain and America, I kept journals and notepads to document my thoughts and ideas.

My little book that I just published, is a collection of some of my favorite quotes that I wrote down over those special years.

Pauls Book Cover

I’ve published this one first to break the ice for many other books that I am currently writing.

If you do choose to buy it, I hope you enjoy it. It’s called ‘Quotes from a Teenage Mind’ and it’s featured exclusively on Amazon.com for $3.99

Each new year is whatever we make it. I choose to make this the year that I become an author. Despite whatever else is going on in the world, always try to see the positive, and to create the best possible life for yourself. We only live once, so make the most of it.

The Republicans have no testicular fortitude

The Republican wave in November was not caused by establishment republicans. It was caused by Tea Party constitutional conservatives. This was ignored by John Boehner with the passing of the cromnibus bill. The election has now been ignored further by the representatives, elected to power by Tea Party types in their districts, who within minutes of being sworn in, immediately abandoned their election promises, and sided with the crony establishment.

http://www.breitbart.com/big-government/2015/01/06/boehner-wins-re-election-with-less-than-majority-of-house/

Over 60% of republicans want a new house speaker, and yet only around 10% of republicans in the house did anything to change that today.

Here are the men who do actually have a pair of testicles. If they one of them is your representative, I suggest you call them and thank them for taking a stand against evil. Evil being doing nothing in the face of growing tyranny, and a disrespect for the nation’s financial interests, which is paramount to our stability.

  1. Rep. Justin Amash, Mich.
  2. Rep. Rod Blum, Iowa
  3. Rep. Dave Brat, Va.
  4. Rep. Jim Bridenstine, Okla.
  5. Rep. Curt Clawson, Fla.
  6. Rep. Scott DesJarlais, Tenn.
  7. Rep. Jeff Duncan, S.C.
  8. Rep. Scott Garrett, N.J.
  9. Rep. Chris Gibson, N.Y.
  10. Rep. Louie Gohmert, Texas
  11. Rep. Paul Gosar, Ariz.
  12. Rep. Tim Huelskamp, Kan.
  13. Rep. Walter Jones, N.C.
  14. Rep. Steve King, Iowa
  15. Rep. Thomas Massie, Ky.
  16. Rep. Mark Meadows, N.C.
  17. Rep. Rich Nugent, Fla.
  18. Rep. Gary Palmer, Ala.
  19. Rep. Bill Posey, Fla.
  20. Rep. Scott Rigell, Va.
  21. Rep. Marlin Stutzman, Ind.
  22. Rep. Randy Weber, Texas
  23. Rep. Daniel Webster, Fla.
  24. Rep. Ted Yoho, Fla.

One of the biggest disappointments for me today was Trey Gowdy. A man who many were calling to replace John Boehner. Had he bothered to return to DC earlier, and had he had the courage to stand up to Boehner, he could well be speaker of the house right now, and not back room deals Boehner.

We did not elect a huge majority in the house and the senate so that everyone could play along to get along. We do not want you all to play nice. We do not want the further erosion of our constitutional freedoms so that you can play the game. The system is broken, but the majority of republicans want to continue to play in it, instead of digging down deep and finding a pair in order to fix it.

The display today was shameful, and will go down in history as a pivotal point that led to the collapse of the current GOP. We the people, are sick and tired of their constant shenanigans.

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There is a reason why the republicans have lost four of the last six election cycles for the presidency. The candidates were not conservative enough. Bush the first was ousted for turning his back on his campaign promises. Bush the second got through by the skin of his teeth, and only because he played lip service to conservatism. McCain and Romney were utter failures, owing to their progressive tendencies. They couldn’t even beat an outright socialist. And now Jeb Bush seeks the presidency? Does he seriously think he will clinch it by ignoring the conservative base? Give me a break. We’ll end up with Hillary as president before a Bush the third. It would be akin to voting George the third into office.

The antics played out today, coupled with the shenanigans at the end of last year with the passing of the one trillion dollar cromnibus bill, will grow to haunt the GOP and the establishment fools.

All of those who voted for John Boehner have no spines and no souls. It’s not about whether the guy is likable or not, and we don’t give a damn about your stupid committee seats. Its about whether the man can get the job done, and apparently he can’t.

We need fiscal responsibility, and real conservatism. This bunch haven’t got the balls to do what needs to be done. And sooner or later that will prove to be their undoing. The world is changing, and real conservatives are sick and tired of these silly games. As the earth shifts with the grass roots movements, these RINO’s, these progressives, will find they have no more legs left to stand on. The GOP was created over one hundred and fifty years ago to take a stand for what was right. It may well be undone for not taking one today.

Facebook and the sanction of the victim

The “sanction of the victim” is the willingness of the good to suffer at the hands of the evil, to accept the role of sacrificial victim for the “sin” of creating values.

Facebook started out for me as a way to connect with family members I had left over seas. I have shared photographs and memories with friends and family alike. Lately the site has devolved into collectivist inspired in-fighting. It is no longer enjoyable. To spend your time defending yourself simply for being yourself is a waste. Some words from T S Eliot found in Joseph Campbell’s ‘hero with a thousand faces’ stick out to me in situations like this, and the only option left is to withdraw entirely and commit to other more productive endeavors.

Here one can neither stand nor lie nor sit
There is not even silence in the mountains
But dry sterile thunder without rain
There is not even solitude in the mountains
But red sullen faces sneer and snarl
From doors of mudcracked houses

The assumption has now been made that it is socially acceptable to heckle other family members over trivial matters, that it is okay to lampoon someone for anything posted on their page that does not conform to social norms. Facebook has now pulled in millions of people into the swirl of collective mantra, where everyone has to get on to get along, and if you stray too far from the murky middle, you will be condemned and thrown to the wolves.

The rampant self imposed narcissism coupled with the collectivist ideals of equality makes for a dirty mix. I’ve seen people who ought to know better berate their grandparents over pent up emotions that ought to have been dealt with in private. I’ve seen otherwise well spoken people blast expletive filled diatribes in comments when a post wasn’t to their liking.

Social media is a double edged sword. It can connect you with distant family members, it can allow you to share photographs with long lost relatives. But it can also be used to vent emotions before heads have had a chance to cool.

It is not acceptable to berate others in public, it is not okay to heckle family members, it is not alright to disrespect elder members of your family. There is a time and a place to air your grievances, and it is always better to do it in private, one on one.

The shame is that Facebook is such a great and easy place to connect with people. The problem is that it is like being in an arena with all of your friends and family watching you. It’s hard to grow and learn new things when there is an audience constantly plugged into your very existence.

And so it was time for me to leave. I deactivated my account. I’ll log back in to check up on some people and to grab their email addresses and telephone numbers some time in the future. But the days of me checking statuses every hour of the day are over.

The time has come to shift focuses onto new endeavors. There are many new projects waiting in the wings, ready to be started and published.

I have a short ebook ready to publish, and a longer one being written. My wife and I just opened up an online store, and my father-in-law is getting ready to start selling the chapters of his new book.

2015 will be whatever you make it, so make it a good one. Happy New Year.

Good will to all men

This time of year is always good for reflection. There isn’t much going on, and it allows us to think back on the year and judge how well we did, what we did right, and what we did wrong. What did you learn? What did you forget? How can you better yourself in the new year?

For me, I learned to hold my tongue, to take a deep breath, to assess the situation and respond to negativity with simplicity and kindness.

Sunset

In writing blog posts you come across many negative comments. It’s hurtful, and your defenses go up when you feel attacked. It’s easy to retaliate, but wisdom and grace comes in taking a minute to compose yourself, and take the moral high ground. What is the assailant’s premise? Chances are, if you’re posting something, you’ve taken the time to study the subject. Is there something that the assailant commentator knows that you don’t? Or have they simply over looked facts that you are privy to, that they are not?

There is much wrong with the world, there always is. Wars are fought, dictators made powerful, corrupt politicians elected to office.

We gain power in being gracious, being men of integrity and honor. We become masters of our own destiny when we take the moral high ground. When we fight for what is right, and respond with kind words to those who do not agree.

More is accomplished with neutrality and trade than with war. That is not to say to be passive. Oh no, passiveness will get you nowhere. Many heads have been stepped on for being passive.

After the war of independence, Thomas Jefferson opposed war with France, despite French insults to the newly founded United States of America. Instead of fighting the French, Jefferson ended up securing a deal for the Louisiana Purchase, doubling the size and power of his young country.

Good will to all men does not mean you will not have legitimate enemies. It does not mean you should lay down and take whatever comes. It simply means that you will take the moral high ground by being a man of good character, of having integrity, and good grace. It means responding with civility and conviction, instead of emotion and disdain.

Civilization is built on civility, on calm, on trading. Civilization is destroyed with insults, mania, and theft.

During this Christmas season, and into the new year, I will practice civility, and to fight the good fight with integrity and honor. I wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

Feminism is destroying the western world

Feminism is destroying the western world while the Middle East denies women’s rights entirely.

You don’t here feminists complaining about the complete lack of rights in North Korea, or the suppression of women in the Middle East.

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Oh no, but you do here about wage inequality and sexism. Indeed today, men are made to feel unequal to women, as lesser subjects.

This article which originally appeared on Breitbart.com explains how men are dropping out of society entirely:

The Sexodus – Part 1

The Men Giving Up on Women And Checking Out Of Society

As recently published – and suddenly pulled – from Breitbart.com.

“My generation of boys is f**ked.”, says Rupert, a young German video game enthusiast I’ve been getting to know over the past few months. “Marriage is dead. Divorce means you’re screwed for life. Women have given up on monogamy, which makes them uninteresting to us for any serious relationship or raising a family. That’s just the way it is. Even if we take the risk, chances are the kids won’t be ours. In France, we even have to pay for the kids a wife has through adulterous affairs. 

“In school, boys are screwed over time and again. Schools are engineered for women. In the US, they force-feed boys Ritalin like Skittles to shut them up. And while girls are favoured to fulfil quotas, men are slipping into distant second place.

“Nobody in my generation believes they’re going to get a meaningful retirement. We have a third or a quarter of the wealth previous generations had, and everyone’s fleeing to higher education to stave off unemployment and poverty because there are no jobs. 

“All that wouldn’t be so bad if we could at least dull the pain with girls. But we’re treated like paedophiles and potential rapists just for showing interest. My generation are the beautiful ones,” he sighs, referring to a 1960s experiment on mice that supposedly predicted a grim future for the human race. 

After overpopulation ran out of control, the female mice in John Calhoun’s “mouse universe” experiment stopped breeding, and the male mice withdrew from the company of others entirely, eating, sleeping, feeding and grooming themselves but doing little else. They had shiny coats, but empty lives.

“The parallels are astounding,” says Rupert.

Never before in history have relations between the sexes been so fraught with anxiety, animosity and misunderstanding. To radical feminists, who have been the driving force behind many tectonic societal shifts in recent decades, that’s a sign of success: they want to tear down the institutions and power structures that underpin society, never mind the fall-out. Nihilistic destruction is part of their road map.

But, for the rest of us, the sight of society breaking down, and ordinary men and women being driven into separate but equal misery, thanks to a small but highly organised group of agitators, is distressing. Particularly because, as increasing numbers of social observers are noticing, an entire generation of young people—mostly men—are being left behind in the wreckage of this social engineering project.

Social commentators, journalists, academics, scientists and young men themselves have all spotted the trend: among men of about 15 to 30 years old, ever-increasing numbers are checking out of society altogether, giving up on women, sex and relationships and retreating into pornography, sexual fetishes, chemical addictions, video games and, in some cases, boorish lad culture, all of which insulate them from a hostile, debilitating social environment created, some argue, by the modern feminist movement. 

You can hardly blame them. Cruelly derided as man-children and crybabies for objecting to absurdly unfair conditions in college, bars, clubs and beyond, men are damned if they do and damned if they don’t: ridiculed as basement-dwellers for avoiding aggressive, demanding women with unrealistic expectations, or called rapists and misogynists merely for expressing sexual interest.  

Jack Rivlin is editor-in-chief of student tabloid media start-up The Tab, a runaway success whose current strap-line reads: “We’ll stop writing it when you stop reading it.” As the guiding intelligence behind over 30 student newspapers, Rivlin is perhaps the best-placed person in the country to observe this trend in action. And he agrees that the current generation of young men find it particularly difficult to engage with women.

“Teenage boys always have been useless with girls, but there’s definitely a fear that now being well-intentioned isn’t enough, and you can get into trouble just for being clumsy,” he says. “For example, leaning in for a kiss might see you branded a creep, rather than just inept.”

The new rules men are expected to live by are never clearly explained, says Rivlin, leaving boys clueless and neurotic about interacting with girls. “That might sound like a good thing because it encourages men to take the unromantic but practical approach of asking women how they should behave, but it causes a lot of them to just opt out of the game and retreat to the sanctuary of their groups of lads, where being rude to women gets you approval, and you can pretty much entirely avoid one-on-one socialising with the opposite sex.”

“There are also a lot of blokes who ignore women because they are scared and don’t know how to act. It goes without saying that boys who never spend any time alone with women are not very good at relationships.”

Rivlin has noticed the increased dependence on substances, normally alcohol, that boys are using to calm their nerves. “I’ve heard a lot of male students boast about never having experienced sober sex,” he says. “They’re obviously scared, which is natural, but they would be a lot less scared and dysfunctional if they understood ‘the rules.’”

The result? “A lot of nice but awkward young men are opting out of approaching women because there is no opportunity for them to make mistakes without suffering worse embarrassment than ever.”

Most troublingly, this effect is felt more acutely among poorer and less well educated communities, where the package of support resources available to young men is slight. At my alma mater, the University of Cambridge, the phenomenon barely registers on the radar, according to Union society president Tim Squirrell.

“I don’t think I’ve really noticed a change recently,” he says. “This year has seen the introduction of mandatory consent workshops for freshers, which I believe is probably a good thing, and there’s been a big effort by the Women’s Campaign in particular to try and combat lad culture on campus. 

The atmosphere here is the same as it was a year ago – mostly nerdy guys who are too afraid to approach anyone in the first place, and then a smaller percentage who are confident enough to make a move. Obviously women have agency too, and they approach men in about the same numbers as they do elsewhere. There certainly haven’t been any stories in [campus newspaper] The Tab about a sex drought on campus.”

“I think that people are probably having as much sex as ever,” he adds. At Cambridge, of course, that may not mean much, and for a variety of socioeconomic and class-based reasons the tribes at Oxford and Cambridge are somewhat insulated from the male drop-out effect. 

But even at such a prestigious university with a largely middle- and upper-class population, those patronising, mandatory “consent” classes are still being implemented. Squirrell, who admits to being a feminist with left-of-centre politics, thinks they’re a good idea. But academics such as Camille Paglia have been warning for years that “rape drives” on campus put women at greater risk, if anything. 

Women today are schooled in victimhood, taught to be aggressively vulnerable and convinced that the slightest of perceived infractions, approaches or clumsy misunderstandings represents “assault,” “abuse” or “harassment.” That may work in the safe confines of campus, where men can have their academic careers destroyed on the mere say-so of a female student. 

But, according to Paglia, when that women goes out into the real world without the safety net of college rape committees, she is left totally unprepared for the sometimes violent reality of male sexuality. And the panics and fear-mongering are serving men even more poorly. All in all, education is becoming a miserable experience for boys. 

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In schools today across Britain and America, boys are relentlessly pathologised, as academics were warning as long ago as 2001. Boyishness and boisterousness have come to be seen as “problematic,” with girls’ behaviour a gold standard against which these defective boys are measured. When they are found wanting, the solution is often drugs.

One in seven American boys will be diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) at some point in their school career. Millions will be prescribed a powerful mood stabiliser, such as Ritalin, for the crime of being born male. The side effects of these drugs can be hideous and include sudden death.

Meanwhile, boys are falling behind girls academically, perhaps because relentless and well-funded focus has been placed on girls’ achievement in the past few decades and little to none on the boys who are now achieving lower grades, fewer honors, fewer degrees and less marketable information economy skills. Boys’ literacy, in particular, is in crisis throughout the West. We’ve been obsessing so much over girls, we haven’t noticed that boys have slipped into serious academic trouble. 

So what happened to those boys who, in 2001, were falling behind girls at school, were less likely to go to college, were being given drugs they did not need and whose self-esteem and confidence issues haven’t just been ignored, but have been actively ridiculed by the feminist Establishment that has such a stranglehold on teaching unions and Left-leaning political parties? 

In short: they grew up, dysfunctional, under-served by society, deeply miserable and, in many cases, entirely unable to relate to the opposite sex. It is the boys who were being betrayed by the education system and by culture at large in such vast numbers between 1990 and 2010 who represent the first generation of what I call the sexodus, a large-scale exit from mainstream society by males who have decided they simply can’t face, or be bothered with, forming healthy relationships and participating fully in their local communities, national democracies and other real-world social structures.   

A second sexodus generation is gestating today, potentially with even greater damage being done to them by the onset of absurd, unworkable, prudish and downright misandrist laws such as California’s “Yes Means Yes” legislation—and by third-wave feminism, which dominates newspapers like the Guardian and new media companies like Vox and Gawker, but which is currently enjoying a hysterical last gasp before women themselves reject it by an even greater margin than the present 4 out of 5 women who say they want nothing to do with the dreaded f-word.

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The sexodus didn’t arrive out of nowhere, and the same pressures that have forced so many millennials out of society exert pressure on their parent’s generation, too. One professional researcher in his late thirties, about whom I have been conversing on this topic for some months, puts it spicily: “For the past, at least, 25 years, I’ve been told to do more and more to keep a woman. But nobody’s told me what they’re doing to keep me.

“I can tell you as a heterosexual married male in management, who didn’t drop out of society, the message from the chicks is: ‘It’s not just preferable that you should fuck off, but imperative. You must pay for everything and make everything work; but you yourself and your preferences and needs can fuck off and die.’”

Women have been sending men mixed messages for the last few decades, leaving boys utterly confused about what they are supposed to represent to women, which perhaps explains the strong language some of them use when describing their situation. As the role of breadwinner has been taken away from them by women who earn more and do better in school, men are left to intuit what to do, trying to find a virtuous mean between what women say they want and what they actually pursue, which can be very different things. 

Men say the gap between what women say and what they do has never been wider. Men are constantly told they should be delicate, sensitive fellow travellers on the feminist path. But the same women who say they want a nice, unthreatening boyfriend go home and swoon over simple-minded, giant-chested, testosterone-saturated hunks in Game of Thrones. Men know this, and, for some, this giant inconsistency makes the whole game look too much like hard work. Why bother trying to work out what a woman wants, when you can play sports, masturbate or just play video games from the comfort of your bedroom?

Jack Donovan, a writer based in Portland who has written several books on men and masculinity, each of which has become a cult hit, says the phenomenon is already endemic among the adult population. “I do see a lot of young men who would otherwise be dating and marrying giving up on women,” he explains, “Or giving up on the idea of having a wife and family. This includes both the kind of men who would traditionally be a little awkward with women, and the kind of men who aren’t awkward with women at all.

“They’ve done a cost-benefit analysis and realised it is a bad deal. They know that if they invest in a marriage and children, a woman can take all of that away from them on a whim. So they use apps like Tinder and OK Cupid to find women to have protected sex with and resign themselves to being ‘players,’ or when they get tired of that, ‘boyfriends.’”

He goes on: “Almost all young men have attended mandatory sexual harassment and anti-rape seminars, and they know that they can be fired, expelled or arrested based more or less on the word of any woman. They know they are basically guilty until proven innocent in most situations.”

Donovan lays much of the blame for the way men feel at the door of the modern feminist movement and what he sees as its disingenuousness. “The young men who are struggling the most are conflicted because they are operating under the assumption that feminists are arguing in good faith,” he says, “When in fact they are engaged in a zero-sum struggle for sexual, social, political and economic status—and they’re winning.

“The media now allows radical feminists to frame all debates, in part because sensationalism attracts more clicks than any sort of fair or balanced discourse. Women can basically say anything about men, no matter how denigrating, to a mix of cheers and jeers.”

That has certainly been the experience of several loose coalitions of men in the media recently, whether scientists outraged by feminist denunciations of Dr Matt Taylor, or video gamers campaigning under the banner of press ethics who saw their movement smeared as a misogynistic hate group by mendacious, warring feminists and so-called “social justice warriors”.

Donovan has views on why it has been so easy for feminists to triumph in media battles. “Because men instinctively want to protect women and play the hero, if a man writes even a tentative criticism of women or feminism, he’s denounced by men and women alike as some kind of extremist scoundrel. The majority of “men’s studies” and “men’s rights” books and blogs that aren’t explicitly pro-feminist are littered with apologies to women. 

“Books like The Myth of Male Power and sites like A Voice for Men are favourite boogeymen of feminists, but only because they call out feminists’ one-sided hypocrisy when it comes to pursing ‘equality.’”

Unlike modern feminists, who are driving a wedge between the sexes, Men’s Rights Activists “actually seem to want sexual equality,” he says. But men’s studies authors and male academics are constantly tip-toeing around and making sure they don’t appear too radical. Their feminine counterparts have no such forbearance, of course, with what he calls “hipster feminists,” such as the Guardian‘s Jessica Valenti parading around in t-shirts that read: “I BATHE IN MALE TEARS.”

“I’m a critic of feminism,” says Donovan. “But I would never walk around wearing a shirt that says, “I MAKE WOMEN CRY.” I’d just look like a jerk and a bully.”

It’s the contention of academics, sociologists and writers like Jack Donovan that an atmosphere of relentless, jeering hostility to men from entitled middle-class media figures, plus a few confused male collaborators in the feminist project, has been at least partly responsible for a generation of boys who simply don’t want to know.

Indeed many young men don’t feel the need to grow up at all, as this article explains:

The concept of the teenager is now in its sixties and it’s starting to look dated. Where once giving in to those idiot urges that arrive on Friday night was recognized as an essential, natural phase that young people just went through—a kind of existential pubescence that would be rinsed out of their systems once their hangovers started to last days rather than hours—it feels like people today are forgetting to do the moving on part.

It’s no longer just teenagers and students who seem to be running away from real life. It’s people in their twenties and thirties, too—people who should really know better but don’t seem to know how to do much else. Fully grown, semi-functioning adults who are unwilling to surrender those endless nights spent staring at their own harrowed reflections in club-toilet cisterns and can’t find much reason to give them up, either

Feminism has gone too far. Women have equal rights. Now it’s time for women to act like women and men like men, instead of trying to pretend we’re exactly the same or that women are better than men.

Here is part two of the first article:

THE SEXODUS, PART 2: DISHONEST FEMINIST PANICS LEAVE MALE SEXUALITY IN CRISIS

Pregnant Man Goes Bankrupt But Still Wants Fourth Child

Sexual dysfunction is not unique to the twenty-first century—nor, certainly, to the West. Japan’s “herbivores”—men who shun sex and prefer saving money and going on long walks to riding motorcycles and flirting with girls—have been well documented and are regarded by social scientists as the best example of male sexuality turning in on itself.

But although the sexodus, a new retreat into solitude by Western males, has a different flavour to it and dramatically different aetiology from previously observed social crises, many characteristics are identical. And what’s troubling about men throwing in the towel in both East and West is the rapidity with which the malaise is spreading across entire generations, fuelled not just by sexual dissatisfaction but also the economic and educational pressures felt by so many young boys.

Perhaps we shouldn’t be surprised. It’s little wonder that in the disorientating modern world, men should seek out extreme measures to help them relate to, and get what they want from, the opposite sex. That probably explains the rise of Julien Blanc, who claims his seminars can transform the way women will respond to you. Blanc is at the extreme end of a movement known as “pick-up artists” or PUAs.

But other voices in the PUA or “red pill” movements, including Daryush Valizadeh, who goes by the pen name Roosh V, says there are structural reasons why society is evolving away from inter-gender contentment. Part of the problem is unrealistic female expectations, says Valizadeh. “Getting laid with attractive women has become extremely hard for average men. Women today of average or even below average quality desire an elite man with above-average looks, muscles, intelligence, and confidence.

“If an average girl works hard enough, she will be able to have a one-night stand with a ‘hot’ guy every now and then because he happened to be horny and wanted an easy lay. The girl then thinks that she actually can get such a man to commit to her for the long term, and so doesn’t give the average guys a chance, holding out for the type of stud that she had a brief sexual encounter with in the past.”

Valizadeh has some controversial views on the state of modern womanhood, too. He says: “It’s also damaging that the attractiveness of women is rapidly declining, mainly due to the obesity epidemic. No matter what members of the ‘fat acceptance’ movement say, men have an innate need for fit women.  What happens is the few attractive girls left get unimaginable amounts of attention.”

According to Valizadeh, today’s sexual marketplace represents a Pareto distribution in which “20 percent of the top guys have access to 80 percent of the best women,” which has the effect of leaving women holding out for the perfect man, a man who of course never comes.

Valizadeh agrees with masculinity author Jack Donovan that men have been feminised by a culture that rejects and ridicules male characteristics and habits. “Good luck naming one male role model that men have today that actually helps them become men,” he remarks. These thoughts are echoed on occasionally rude but compelling male-oriented blogs, such as the phenomenally popular Chateau Heartiste.

They are also supported by the current state of the sex wars, which are constituted bizarrely. One of the remarkable things about recent high-profile skirmishes with feminists is how few mainstream heterosexual men have been involved. In the GamerGate video games controversy, opposition to “social justice warriors” and their attempts at censorship on Twitter has come from older gay men in public life and younger geeks, gamers and drop-outs; in the case of Matt Taylor, it was geeks and other women.

Straight young men simply don’t want to know any more. They’re not getting involved. Some women, too, horrified by what lesbianised third-wave feminism claims to do in their name, opt out of the argument. The absurd result is that geeks, queers and dykes are dominating the discussion about how men and women should interact. Jack Donovan, for example, is gay, as is your present correspondent. It’s as if gays are the only men left prepared to fight masculinity’s corner.

What strikes a lot of women as strange is how rational and systematic so much of this decision-making is by men. Many young men literally perform a cost-benefit analysis and decide that women aren’t worth the hassle. It’s girls who lose out in this scenario: men don’t need the sustained emotional intimacy that comes with a fulfilling sexual relationship and can retreat into masturbatory pursuits, prostitution and one-night stands much more comfortably.

But that’s exactly what it is, from a male point of view: a rational opting out from education, work and marriage by men who have had enough, as a remarkable book by Dr Helen Smith called Men on Strike warned in July last year. (The consensus on this stuff is growing rapidly.)

Men, driven, as many of them like to say, by fact and not emotion, can see that society is not fair to them and more dangerous for them. They point to the fact that they are more likely to be murder victims and more likely to commit suicide. Women do not choose to serve in the Armed Forces and they experience fewer deaths and injuries in the line of work generally.

Women get shorter custodial sentences for the same crimes. There are more scholarships available to them in college. They receive better and cheaper healthcare, and can pick from favourable insurance packages available only to girls. When it comes to children, women are presumed to be the primary caregiver and given preferential treatment by the courts. They have more, better contraceptive options.

Women are less likely to be homeless, unemployed or to abuse drugs than men. They are less likely to be depressed or to suffer from mental illness. There is less pressure on them to achieve financial success. They are less likely to live in poverty. They are given priority by emergency and medical services.

Some might call these statistical trends “female privilege.” Yet everywhere and at all times, say men’s rights advocates, the “lived experiences” and perceived oppression of women is given a hundred per cent of the airtime, in defiance of the reality that womenhaven’t just achieved parity with men but have overtaken them in almost every conceivable respect. What inequalities remain are the result of women’s choices, say respectable feminist academics such as Christina Hoff Sommers, not structural biases.

And yet men are constantly beaten up over bizarre invented concepts such as rape culture and patriarchal privilege. The bizarre but inevitable conclusion of all this is that women are fuelling their own unhappiness by driving men to consider them as sex objects and nothing more, because the thought of engaging in a relationship with a woman is horrifying, or too exhausting to contemplate. And the sexodus will affect women disproportionately harshly because research data show that when women “act like men” by having lots of casual sex,they become unhappy, are more likely to suffer from depression and destroy their chances of securing a meaningful long-term relationship.

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It’s not just video games and casual sex that young men are retreating into. They are also immersing themselves in fetishes that to their grandparents’ generation would resemble grounds for incarceration, and which drive them further away from the formerly fairer sex. Consider, for example, the example of furry culture and anthropomorphic animal sex fetishism, both of which are experiencing explosive growth, fuelled by the internet.

Jack Rivlin’s student newspaper The Tab, which we encountered in part one, has noticed the trend spreading on UK campuses. (It’s already rife throughout the US.) Other alternative sexual behaviours, including homosexuality and transgenderism, are more prevalent on campus now too.

“It’s eminently plausible that there are a greater number of people who identify as homosexual, bisexual or other sexualities who are happy to be labelled as such these days,” agrees Cambridge Union president Tim Squirrell, from whom we heard in part one, speaking about the students he sees passing through his Union. “I think we’re becoming more open and accepting of people who live different kinds of lifestyles and have different kinds of identities.”

Gay emancipation, of course, may not have been a uniformly good thing for women. Depending on whose figures you believe—and you’re wise not to take the claims of gay advocacy groups or gay magazines too seriously, for obvious reasons—somewhere between 1 per cent and 10 per cent of the adult male population is gay. (It’s probably a lot closer to 1 per cent.)

Just a few decades ago, many of those men—at the risk of stereotyping, the most sensitive, artistic, attractive and highest-earning men; that is, perfect husband material—would have got married, had a few kids and led a double life to pursue their forbidden urges. They wouldn’t have bothered their wives for sex and they would have made great fathers.

But now they’re settling down with men, in many cases not having children at all. In other words, a healthy chunk of the most desirable men—men who no doubt would have cooed along approvingly to feminist exhortations—are now off the market, leaving even fewer eligible men in the dating pool.

(As a side note, here’s an argument you won’t read elsewhere: gay men test significantly higher, on average, for IQ, and we know that IQ is at least partially genetically determined. Gays don’t reproduce as much now they don’t have to keep up the pretence of straight relationships. In fact, surveys say they barely reproduce at all.

Is it too much of a stretch to ask whether society’s newfound tolerance of homosexuals has made society… well, a bit more stupid? Granted, it sounds far-fetched. But while there’s no doubt that liberating gay men from the shame of their secret double lives has been a moral imperative, driven by compassion, no rapid social change comes without trade-offs.)

All this comes before we even discuss the rapid growth of sadomasochistic sex among the young and the “new civil rights frontier” of transgenderism, a psychiatric disorder currently in the process of being repackaged by the Left as an alternative sexual lifestyle.

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The response to part one of this series was colossal. To date, over 300,000 readers have shared it on Facebook. 16,500 readers left comments. Over 500 men wrote to me privately to express their gratitude and support, from every continent and in all age groups. The younger men spoke especially movingly. (Predictably, hundreds of angry feminists on Twitter scorned it as “entitled whinging from white male manbabies,” rather proving the point of the story’s premise for me.) Here are the most representative quotes from my conversations, reprinted with permission.

Mark, 24: “Everyone I know feels the same. Your article spoke directly to us. We’re not all losers and nerds, we’re just normal guys who are either scared of being accused of terrible stuff by harpies or simply can’t be bothered any more. I can’t believe I’m saying this but I just can’t deal with hassle of women any more.”

Mickey: “I say no to the whole thing, even though I am very heterosexual and would like the intimacy of a relationship based on mutual respect. Well, I thought I did, but it’s been so long and the standard of behavior for women remains so low, along with my tolerance for dating bullshit, that it does not look like a realistic desire anymore.”

Francis, 28: “I’m an athlete. My parents have a lot of money. I have plenty of friends and a good social life. I don’t hang out with women any more. Occasionally I’ll have one night stands, but mostly I fill my time with other things. I got accused of molesting a girl at college and since then I’ve just thought, whatever. I play sports instead.”

Tilo, 20: “I don’t know for sure but your article sounds like me and a lot of my friends. I do furry stuff online in secret. I’d be horrified if my parents found out but it’s all that gets me off. Girls are a nightmare. I have a brother who’s ten years older and he feels the same. We’ve given up.”

Hector, 26: “I did stick to that social belief for a brief time thinking that the need for a serious relationship would come with the age, but it never happened and slowly I gave up. Today, a few hours before reading your article, I was having lunch with my mother and she kept talking about girlfriends and how I needed to get married, meanwhile I kept thinking ‘why would I waste my life with this shit?’, and it wasn’t until I read your article a few hours later, that I realised. And I don’t think it’s just my generation that is affected by this.”

We can be quite sure now that the sexodus is not some fringe, isolated internet movement as “Men Going Their Own Way” has sometimes been characterised. A combination of disastrous social engineering, special privileges for women, the relentless mockery of white men on the basis of their sex and skin colour and the economic and educational abandonment for boys has created one, if not two, lost generations already.

Men created most of what is good about the world. The excesses of masculinity are also, to be sure, responsible for much of what is bad. But if we are to avoid sliding into decline, mediocrity and a world in which men are actively discriminated against, we must arrest the decline in social attitudes towards them before so many victims are claimed that all hope of reconciliation between the sexes is lost. If that happens, it will be women who will suffer.

We are born different, we act different, our roles are different. Rights are one thing, actions are another.

If women act like real women, the real men will show you all the respect you need. If women act like men, you will be treated as such, and ignored all the same.

Feminism has gone too far. In the western world, women have more freedoms than even men did only a few short centuries ago. Don’t allow misguided ego to destroy the freedoms and traditions the western world holds dear.

Is Putin the new Tsar?

Until events earlier this year, I didn’t pay much attention to Vladimir Putin, but after the actions of his military in the Ukraine, and the annexation of the Crimea, you’d be a fool to ignore him.

Vladimir Putin is quoted as saying that “The collapse of the Soviet Union was the greatest geo-political catastrophe of the century”

Indeed this article even reports that Mr Putin wants to restore the Holy Roman Empire!

 

Putin Is The New Tsar Of The Holy Empire

He aims to deliver on pact with the Russian people.

L. TODD WOOD — MAY 19, 2014

Vladimir Putin may have been a communist, but he is no longer. Most Americans don’t understand that the Soviet Union was but a small seventy year slice of Russian imperial history. Instead of a new leader of the communist party, Putin has become the new tsar of Russia. It’s not about ideology for him; it’s about power. Rather than fomenting a communist utopia and spreading Leninism worldwide, Putin is resurrecting the Russian Empire. Under the Romanovs, the tsars expanded throughout Siberia and the Caucuses, even owning Alaska and parts of California at one point before withdrawing during the Crimean War. The tsars were experts at the geopolitical chessboard, conquering when they could and forging alliances when they were overmatched. Putin is borrowing from this playbook. He is reestablishing the long coveted third Holy Roman Empire.

When Constantinople fell to the Ottomans in the fifteenth century, many Christian holy relics were moved to Moscow in order to prevent them from falling into the hands of the Muslim invaders. The Russian Orthodox Church was intimately intertwined with the imperial halls of power and began to plant in the royalty’s mind the concept of the third Holy Roman Empire after the fall of Rome and Byzantium. The Church wanted a continuation of the Christian state. Putin has reinvigorated the relationship between the Russian government and the leadership of the Russian Orthodox Church. He uses it to build legitimacy among the populace of believers spread throughout the vast Russian territory. The royal necropolis, the Cathedral of the Archangel, stands only a few hundred yards from Putin’s residence inside the walls of the Kremlin. Ivan the Terrible and his two sons are buried there. One could be forgiven for wondering if Putin visits the necropolis for inspiration. As the Russian monk Philotheus said in 1510 to the royals, “Two Romes have fallen. The third stands. And there will be no fourth. No one shall replace your Christian Tsardom!”

Putin has also tapped into a deep reservoir of imperial pride that has been pent up for several decades since the fall of the Soviet Union. Russians want desperately to be respected and even feared around the world. Putin is giving the Russian people what they want. They are willing to relinquish their newfound freedoms for the return of a strong leader who can regain the perceived rightful place of Russian people.

There are striking similarities to the way Putin governs compared to the tsars of the past. Perhaps the most important is a concept introduced by Ivan the Terrible after his beloved wife Anastasia was poisoned by the Russian nobility. The oprichnina is the concept of a palace guard or circle of wealthy supporters who protect the tsar and receive special favors, economic- and security-wise. The Obama administration has started to target these individuals to put pressure on Putin to cease and desist in his quest for reclaiming the old Soviet states. It will take a lot more pressure from the West than has been applied to turn the allegiance of this group of insiders. Their future and Putin’s future are joined together.

The bottom line is that Putin will continue to push to achieve his imperial agenda as long as there is no opposition. He is playing the long game. He realizes Obama is weak and has given him an opportunity. He started planning this adventure a long time ago. He also realizes the Americans will probably elect a much stronger president in less than three years. Therefore, he is moving as fast as opportunity allows to achieve his goals. He wasted no time moving into Eastern Ukraine with the same successful tactics after Crimea was annexed.

Sanctions will have no effect on Putin’s calculus. He can bear economic pain as he pivots to the east to build trade relationships. His goal is not to become part of the West, but to reestablish what he believes is Russia’s historical destiny. He doesn’t want to conquer the West but to transcend it. Putin wants what the tsars of Russia have always wanted: respect, wealth, and power. He aims to deliver on this pact with the Russian people.

Indeed Time Magazine reported on the Tsar in 2007 when it made him person of the year.

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No one is born with a stare like Vladimir Putin’s. The Russian President’s pale blue eyes are so cool, so devoid of emotion that the stare must have begun as an affect, the gesture of someone who understood that power might be achieved by the suppression of ordinary needs, like blinking. The affect is now seamless, which makes talking to the Russian President not just exhausting but often chilling. It’s a gaze that says, I’m in charge.

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The Irony being the Time Magazine also made Adolf Hitler man of the year some years ago too.

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The actions of the ex KGB officer over the last few months have proven that he is in many ways, similar to Adolf Hitler. He may not be as brutal as Joseph Stalin, and he may not as yet be a dictator, but he is as land hungry as Nazi Germany’s former leader. Which is ironic considering that Russia is the largest country on the planet. But as the saying goes “power corrupts, absolute power corrupts absolutely”

Watch this space.

Bush/Hillary 2016!

After the Republican wave in November, I suddenly felt relief, that the president’s unlawful actions would finally be curtailed. I tuned in to Sean Hannity’s radio show as I was leaving work, to see how staunch conservatives were taking the news.

Only a few weeks later, to my, and other libertarian/conservative minded people’s dismay, the republicans led by liberal back room deal making John Boehner, had just caved, and had passed a 1.1 trillion dollar spending bill.

I decided to tune into Glenn Beck’s radio station to see what his thoughts were on all this, and then as Rush Limbaugh’s show came on, I continued to listen, despite never having listened to him before, and I listened to his thoughts on the same subject matter.

Much to my surprise, I liked much of what Rush had to say, and I learned very quickly over the last few days that Rush, while eccentric, and certainly known for putting his foot in his mouth, is actually a conservative with good intentions, and not the hard core republican establishment devil worshiper that the left would have you believe he is.

The funniest and most ironic thing I heard today was Rush’s ticket for 2016, he laid out his reasons for it, and it made lots of sense, since there’s virtually no difference between the two candidates, just as was true with Obama and Romney in 2012.

Rush Limbaugh’s ticket is Jeb Bush/Hillary Clinton 2016, you get to pick who’s on top. Bush for President and Hillary for Vice President? Or Vice Versa? Because as Hillary infamously once said “what difference does it make?”

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As depressing as all this is, I see light at the end of the tunnel. I’ve liked and disliked Glenn Beck over the years. I’ve seen him on TV and heard him on the radio for a few years now, and I realize now why I’ve felt that way, it all makes perfect sense. I’ve been on a journey, just as Glenn has, a journey in search of truth, a journey to better myself and to better the country, to right wrongs, and to lead by example.

We all make mistakes along the way, we say hurtful things, especially in politics, but those of us in the liberty movement, the Tea Party, the Libertarians, we all seek a free country to live in. Jeb Bush and Hillary Clinton do not embody any of the values we hold dear, and neither will help defend and protect the constitution of the United States.

While I am now holding out hope for Rand Paul to run and win the nomination for the Republican Party (Ted Cruz and Scott Walker would be good also) I understand there is a real possibility of the two democrats who might win the Nomination (yes the other democrat is Jeb)

It took many years for the revolution that founded this country to not only start, but take place, and also grow with the creation of the constitution, and inception into national law. Movements don’t happen over night, it can take many years to take root and grow. The fact that there are any Tea Party senators and congressmen is saying an awful lot.

So while the new joke is Hillary/Bush or Bush/Hillary 2016, my hope is that this joke damages both candidates and their already frail reputations. I think it’s a stroke of genius that the Rand Pac took out a google ad with Jeb Bush’s name on it, and it will take many acts of sabotage like this for us to scuttle Bush III’s chances of tipping the nomination.

Bush Clinton 2016

As for the new year, I believe our movement back towards freedom, can only be done by being positive, and making fun of absurdities such as Jeb and Hillary. There is far too much negativity in politics. We can grow our movement by being positive, by teaching the constitution, by showing friends and family amazing shows such as ‘John Adams’ and showing them the benefits of the free market vs socialism.

To all my readers, friends and family, Merry Christmas, and a Happy New Year!

Rediscovering ourselves

Watching movies like ‘Interstellar’, ‘the right stuff’ and ‘space cowboys’ have only highlighted the failings of government to me. NASA was born of bureaucracy, and it has died of bureaucracy. In fifty years, they never perfected space travel. They piggy backed off the designs of Nazi Germany’s scientists and never got away from rocket launching from the ground in order to get men into space. To this day, only several hundred people have ever traveled to the stars.

In just ten years, Virgin Galactic has revolutionized space travel. Burt Rutan’s revolutionary new designs have made space tourism a viable option in the not too distant future. Now, there have been casualties in pushing this envelope, as there always is. Many of progressive mindset have bashed Virgin Galactic in the last couple of weeks for the death of one of their test pilots, while saying that this sort of thing should be left to government experts. Are they referring to the same government experts who spent billions blowing up rockets trying to get them into space, and the many planes that went down trying to break the sound barrier? Lets not forget, that dozens of test pilots died trying to break the sound barrier, and that even with the space shuttle program, which was far from perfect, shuttles still exploded on the way up, and disintegrated on the way down, killing many of the few astronauts to go into space.

Burt Rutan, with a private enterprise backing, has done far more for space travel in the last decade, than any government agency has in the last half a century. This is a good thing, because America in particular as a nation is just now beginning to rediscover itself. The progressive mantra is slowly being pried away. We can see from the November 2014 elections that the heart of America fully and utterly rejects the democrats big government policies, headed by imperial president Barack Obama.

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While the nation has now almost completely gone red, the real battles are just now coming. Dinosaurs such as Mitch McConnell, and John Boehner have no right to be at the helm of the senate and house, their paid and patented antiquated back room deal ideology belongs on the scrap heap of history. America is beginning to rediscover Capitalism, and its place in our lives. It is Capitalism, the free market system, which spurs growth, which creates opportunities, which pushes us further than we’ve been before. It is capitalism which will take us to the stars, not soviet style big government

Americans, which the help of movies from Christopher Nolan, with constitutionalist tea party groups, and with alternative media, are rediscovering capitalism, and the fruits it bears. The republicans have swept the house and senate in such a way that has not been seen in nearly one hundred years. We now stand upon the precipice of an abyss or a great awakening. The abyss is in believing that the republicans will do what needs to be done on their own to scale back government. The great awakening is in keeping the pressure on them to roll back the reaches of government, and to allow free enterprise to once again blow the fires of industry throughout the land. We are standing on the edge of an abyss or a new renaissance. I know which one I choose. How about you?

We determine the culture each and every day, we decide which direction the country turns. We decide weather to squabble about our place in the dirt, or to reach for the stars. Each and every one of us is responsible for our own futures. In rediscovering ourselves, we reignite ourselves, we blaze a path for others to follow. The future is out there, lets go and create it!

Defining the “Right Stuff”: Virgin Galactic has it, government doesn’t

Richard Branson is a self made billionaire. He has more than enough money to last him a lifetime. While he does now live on an island, his vision is towards the stars. Sir Branson’s legacy will be in giving the world affordable space flight in a time where governments are hell bent on restraining their people from the stars. Where government fails, capitalist visionaries like Richard Branson lead on.

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Overmanwarrior's Wisdom

There are too many in the wake of the two commercial space endeavors which tragically ended during the last week of October 2014 who still believe that the government are the professionals in space flight, whereas the private sector are the amateurs. First was the 140-foot Antares rocket operated by Orbital Sciences Corp that blew up 15 seconds after lift-off destroying $200 million dollars of investment. Then there was the even worse Virgin Galactic spaceship that suffered a structural failure and crashed killing one and injuring another pilot destroying over $400 million dollars of a very unique craft. There seems to be a belief that if the federal government had been involved that these accidents wouldn’t have happened and that only the deep pockets of a looting government can fund such endeavors.

Well, here’s the deal—if it were up to the federal government there wouldn’t have been any crashes, because…

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